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palo santo sticks

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excuse my inner hippie coming out for a moment, but i had a trippy 2016.  if you catch me after a few beers, i’ll elaborate a little further.  bottom line: i spent a lot of time looking inward and discovered some things about myself that i think are pretty f**king cool.  before going any further down this rabbit hole, let me stop myself and recommend something that i found during this strange time: palo santo sticks.

what the hell is palo santo?  quite simply it’s wood from a tree that is thought to be holy.  palo santo (spanish) literally translates to “holy wood” (so it’s not just a clever name).

what do you do with it?  you burn it like incense.

why would you do this?  to cleanse your aura, chase away evil spirits, bring you good fortune…it’s powers are endless.  oh, and it smells good.

i realize it’s a bit hokey and not for everyone, but it works for me.  i burn some while i meditate or if i feel some negative energy that’s followed me home from my day.  you can find it at your local hippie store or hipster store for that matter and even on amazon.  try it out and let me know what you think.  i swear this s**t works.

look who has a facebook page

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welcome to the 21st century, to take the train.  everyone seems to have a facebook page these days, so why not me.  i realize that if i’m going to post blog updates on facebook that i don’t need to be doing it from my own account.  (this was an excellent suggestion from my girlfriend who said i didn’t need to blow up peoples timelines with my bulls**t.  i don’t disagree.)  if you want to receive updates on the reg via the fb, then please like or follow my page.  here’s a deal: if i get over 1000 likes or follows by the end of april, i’ll get a tattoo or something to commemorate this achievement.  how about about that.  you can’t lose.  here’s the link one more time: facebook.com/totakethetrain.

new(ish) instagram and (re)branding

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yesterday i read an article on getting more followers on instagram.  i wish i would have liked it on twitter or remembered who wrote it, but i can’t seem to find it anywhere.  the gist of the article was to be a leader rather than a follower.  what i took it to mean is being proactive with finding people to connect with.  one idea the writer mentioned was letting people in your social network know you have an account and asking them to follow.  i tried that on twitter last night and 3 more people added me on instagram.  i’m going to call that a success.  i may do the same on facebook tonight.  i will keep you posted on the results.

p.s. if you want to follow, you can find me here: www.instagram.com/totakethetrain

you may be wondering why this is important?  well, let me explain.  i’m in the middle of a branding process, so to speak.  i’ve had this blog for 6 years now and it really hasn’t progressed.  it’s mostly my fault.  actually, it’s all my fault.  i’m the only writer on here.  internet 101 says you have to create content on a regular basis to be successful.  i haven’t done a good job with that lately and that’s ok.  i’m not mad about it.     Continue reading

instagram husband

“then she got mad at me because she thought i was just trying to get out of taking photos.  of course i’m trying to get out of taking your f**king photo.”  brilliant.  this video went viral overnight and for good reason.  i always wondered who was taking all of these photos for bloggers.  now i know.

dating again (part 3.5)

lately when i think about dating, this scene from best in show keeps popping into my head.  “we met at starbucks.  not at the same starbucks, but we saw each other at different starbucks across from each other.”

dating is miserable.  it’s become one of those things that i am starting to hate.  i used to think i was good at it – that i had it down to some sort of science, but no longer.  it’s confusing and complicated and unfulfilling.  look, i don’t mean to sound like a complete pessimist, but i would argue that in today’s time period dating is harder than it’s ever been.  let me explain why… Continue reading

dating again (part 2)

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wow.  where to begin?  it’s been a hell of a year for dating.  i was in a relationship for the last 10 months and that ended in september.  trying to do the grown up thing, we talked through it and realized it was not what we both needed or wanted.  looking back, i can confidently say that she taught me a lot about relationships and life and i am grateful for meeting her.  now back to the drawing board…

i feel like we’re in the worst age for dating.  all i hear from my female friends is that it’s a “hook up culture” and guys are not looking to date.  i’m going to go ahead and tell you that that statement is complete bullshit.  it’s a defeatist mentality and i’m sick of hearing it.

the real problem with dating right now is that it’s a lost art.  we, the young people of this world, have forgotten how to do it.  we’re scared of it.  all the things our parents have taught us have been lost to technology.  rather than picking up the phone and making a phone call, we text.  rather than approaching a woman in a public setting or being introduced, we use apps to break the ice.  i am guilty of both of these things.  i have even been preaching their use for the last couple of years now.  i’m tired of it. Continue reading

friends are waiting

you got me, budweiser.  this commercial is amazing.  i typically don’t post this type of fare on here,  but i couldn’t resist.  i have a lab and she’s one of the best things that’s ever happened to me.  drinking and driving is stupid.  let’s try not to do it.  #friendsarewaiting

happy anniversary

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today is the 4 year anniversary of to take the train.  this photo of the beatles was one of the first things i posted.  i had this theory that if i posted (and tagged) pictures of things that would get traffic, then people would come.  it didn’t quite work out that way, but that’s ok because i had help from a couple of friends (thank you valetesquire, and every other site than linked or mentioned this blog).

it’s been such an amazing 4 years since i started to take the train.  i’ve gone through some major life changes, i’ve met some good friends (that i hope to meet in person one day), and i’ve had a place to write – which is something i love to do.  i realize i don’t write as much as i used to, but that’s about to change.  it’s a part of me i can’t deny.

all that to say…THANK YOU (first uppercase letters ever used on to take the train) to everyone who has ever read a post or clicked on this blog.  it means a lot to me that you would take the time to stop and read or view ramblings from a person that you don’t know.  i’m excited about the next 4 years.  i think they’re going to be some of my best.  let’s see how long i can keep this thing going.

speaking of bukowski

thelaughingheart

i’ll be honest with you, i haven’t read a ton of charles bukowski, but what i have read i have enjoyed.  one of my favorite poems of all time is “the laughing heart.”  i have a copy on my phone, beside my desk, and on my refrigerator.  i’ve memorized half of it (i should probably know the whole thing by now, but memorization is not my strong suit).  if you haven’t read it, please read it a couple of times today, tomorrow and maybe the next day. oh, and check out this excellent levi’s commercial from 2011.  time to start living or at least remember how to.

dating again

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2012 was a rough year.  my divorce was finalized last august and for the most part i’ve been avoiding dating ever since.  i was only married for two years, but it’s hard to say goodbye to anyone you’ve been with no matter the circumstances.

if you’ve ever been single during the holidays, then you know how lonely it can be.  in december, a good girl friend of mine said, “why don’t you just sign up for match and get it over with.”  this felt like a dare, so i did it, and what a long, strange trip it’s been.

the whole concept of internet dating is weird to me.  it’s like fishing for people where you’re the angler and the bait at the same time.  you fill out a profile, put up a couple of pictures, pay some money, and wait for the line to start moving.  you just hope you have the right bait. Continue reading