Posts Tagged ‘ love ’

john lennon

Lennon In Paris

“we need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections.  if we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others.”

– john lennon

december 8th is one of those dates i always remember.  it’s the day john lennon died.  obviously, i wasn’t around when this happened, but as a huge beatles fan it’s one of those dates i can’t forget.  his music and life impacted (and continues to impact) so many people.  he had a lot of great quotes about life and love, but i read this one the other day and it stuck with me.  it’s so important to love ourselves and feel good about who we are before we fully commit to loving someone else.  because i’m human i struggle with self confidence like everyone else.  part of me feels like all of my struggles with dating and love are god’s way of leading me to my true self.  i’m looking forward to the day when i can look in the mirror and truly love who i am, because when that happens i will be ready to love someone else in the way i’ve always dreamed about.  thank you for everything, john lennon.  we need you now more than ever.

dating again (part 3.5)

lately when i think about dating, this scene from best in show keeps popping into my head.  “we met at starbucks.  not at the same starbucks, but we saw each other at different starbucks across from each other.”

dating is miserable.  it’s become one of those things that i am starting to hate.  i used to think i was good at it – that i had it down to some sort of science, but no longer.  it’s confusing and complicated and unfulfilling.  look, i don’t mean to sound like a complete pessimist, but i would argue that in today’s time period dating is harder than it’s ever been.  let me explain why… Continue reading

pray for paris

prayforparis

paris is my favorite city on the planet.  the news tonight is absolutely heartbreaking.  this s**t must stop.  my thoughts and prayers are with the people of paris.  pray for paris.

*my friend jess graves at the love list wrote an excellence piece about this tragedy that you can read here.  great job, jess.  well said.

parispeace

“peace for paris” by jean jullien

dating again (part 2)

datingagainpart2

wow.  where to begin?  it’s been a hell of a year for dating.  i was in a relationship for the last 10 months and that ended in september.  trying to do the grown up thing, we talked through it and realized it was not what we both needed or wanted.  looking back, i can confidently say that she taught me a lot about relationships and life and i am grateful for meeting her.  now back to the drawing board…

i feel like we’re in the worst age for dating.  all i hear from my female friends is that it’s a “hook up culture” and guys are not looking to date.  i’m going to go ahead and tell you that that statement is complete bullshit.  it’s a defeatist mentality and i’m sick of hearing it.

the real problem with dating right now is that it’s a lost art.  we, the young people of this world, have forgotten how to do it.  we’re scared of it.  all the things our parents have taught us have been lost to technology.  rather than picking up the phone and making a phone call, we text.  rather than approaching a woman in a public setting or being introduced, we use apps to break the ice.  i am guilty of both of these things.  i have even been preaching their use for the last couple of years now.  i’m tired of it. Continue reading