Archive for December, 2015

instagram husband

“then she got mad at me because she thought i was just trying to get out of taking photos.  of course i’m trying to get out of taking your f**king photo.”  brilliant.  this video went viral overnight and for good reason.  i always wondered who was taking all of these photos for bloggers.  now i know.

john lennon

Lennon In Paris

“we need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections.  if we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others.”

– john lennon

december 8th is one of those dates i always remember.  it’s the day john lennon died.  obviously, i wasn’t around when this happened, but as a huge beatles fan it’s one of those dates i can’t forget.  his music and life impacted (and continues to impact) so many people.  he had a lot of great quotes about life and love, but i read this one the other day and it stuck with me.  it’s so important to love ourselves and feel good about who we are before we fully commit to loving someone else.  because i’m human i struggle with self confidence like everyone else.  part of me feels like all of my struggles with dating and love are god’s way of leading me to my true self.  i’m looking forward to the day when i can look in the mirror and truly love who i am, because when that happens i will be ready to love someone else in the way i’ve always dreamed about.  thank you for everything, john lennon.  we need you now more than ever.

2016 wish list: black double monks

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it’s been a minute since i’ve talked about double monks.  that doesn’t mean i’m not wearing them once or twice a week.  i have a pair of brown ones, but i think it’s time to go to the dark side (sorry couldn’t resist a star wars reference).  i wear a suit to work every day, so i need to continue to add to my shoe arsenal.  my target is another pair of monks from sid mashburn.  they don’t get any better looking than these.

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essential: the fitted white dress shirt

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i’m a bit of a francophile.  ever since going to paris in 2014, i’ve had an affinity for all things french including their style.  the other day, i was reading a blog post on how men in paris dress and the female who wrote the piece was discussing the appeal of the fitted white dress shirt.  she claimed that it could make any man look sexy.  duly noted.  she also mentioned leaving the top 2 buttons unbottoned (very european).  it got me thinking that a fitted white dress shirt is an essential piece to every man’s wardrobe.

i realize alex turner (above) is not french, but he’s from the uk and pulls off this look flawlessly.  honestly, most of us average dudes could rock this look (minus the oversized belt buckle of course).  the good news is that you can probably find a good quality fitted white dress shirt wherever you shop (j. crew, sid mashburn, ralph lauren, uniqlo, etc.).  i’m a big fan of the shirt below from french brand apc.  i guess that’s not really surprising given how i started this post.

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thread experiment

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so this is awesome.  thread experiment is the very first brand of bedding dedicated to men.  why is this awesome?  because dudes need nice sheets (and other bedding).  i’ve been looking for the perfect sheets for a couple of years now.  being a man, i have absolutely no clue where to buy sheets or what to look for in a sheet.  in addition, it’s not something that dudes talk about.  “hey bro, where do you buy your sheets?”  no, not a good conversation to have.  i’ve settled on pottery barn’s essential sheet and they’ve been great, but i need a little more flavor in the bedroom if you know what i’m saying.  enter thread experiment.  they are high quality sheets at a nice price – some of them even have dope designs like these anchor sheets (below).  i’m going to give them a shot and hope to be a repeat customer.  thank you to all parties involved for creating bedding directed towards men.

*update: i bought a set of these sheet.  i hate them.  my girlfriend hates them.  if my dog were allowed on the bed, she would hate them too.  they are hard as f**k i.e. not soft.  do not buy them.

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modern romance

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some of you may have read my dating rant post a couple of weeks ago (it can be found here).  in the comments, brosen recommended i pick up aziz ansari’s new book modern romance because it tackled some of my frustrations.  i finished it yesterday.  thank you for the recommendation.

for those not in the know, aziz was asked to write a book and decided to take a look at the dating landscape in the age of technology hence modern romance.  he did a years plus worth of research teaming with sociologists and other behavioral specialists to try and figure out what the hell is happening out there.  it’s really well put together with the perfect amount of scientific data and aziz humor.

there are so many great parts in this book.  he starts his research by going to a retirement home to poll seniors on how they met their significant others.  (one of the seniors just wanted free donuts.)  he asks people at his stand up shows to share their texts and interactions with potentials dates.  (generic “hey” texts are not cool.)  he also traveled to tokyo, paris and a few other spots to see if dating is any easier abroad.  (glad to know what a soapland is.)

it’s a quick read and highly entertaining.  it definitely made me feel better to know that more people are in the same boat as me i.e confused and frustrated.  by the way, i’m never texting a girl for a first date ever again.  i will always call from here on out.  maybe i can share that story for dating again part 4 which might be coming soon.

le labo candle

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this is a really large photo of a candle.  i could probably change the dimensions if i wanted to, but you need to know this brand le labo.  it’s the best smelling stuff you will ever smell.  it’s also like a secret club that people are hesitant to tell you about.  “hey, that smells really good.  what is that?”  “don’t worry about it.  it’s nothing.”  *waves hand in front of your face like obi-wan kenobi so you won’t ask any more questions.  it ain’t cheap, so this candle is a good place to start.